I believe you would had seen in the news a couple of days ago that a guy, 22 years of age, committed suicide because of a failure in a relationship. He jumped off a 14-story building and died due to excessive loss of blood in the next morning. But before he died, he posted a suicide note on his facebook page, and even did a countdown to the time of his suicide.
Well at first his friends and family didn't know what he was up to, except that it was kind of freaking her sister out (try googling, you can probably find the facebook comments exchange between him and his sister). In his text replies in facebook at that time he did sound normal though, or rather, look normal (can't hear written words right?), like most of us would - typing using rojak words, with mandatory smileys at the end of each sentence. No one suspected anything at all, until it happened.
Now, when I heard of the news. I was extremely disturbed; there are a few reasons why and I shall talk about them one by one.
Killing himself because of a broken heart
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| The only worse way to die is to break your heart, literally. |
People does a lot of things to kill themselves everyday, intentionally or otherwise. Suicide, of course, is a way of dying where people consciously choose to end their own lives.
There are a number of good reasons why a person would want to kill him or herself, such as in the case of the kamikaze pilots of Japan, where they fly their fighter airplanes straight into enemy targets, thus ensuring maximum control in hitting the target. The downside was, obviously, the pilot has to die in the collision, but the soldiers say it's a way to show love and patriotism for the country, to die for the country is of the greatest honor. The further justification is that because it is tactically superior (provided you have enough crazy pilots and airplanes of course).
But killing himself because his ex-girlfriend didn't want to accept him again, is that justifiable? How can a person, really, want to die because of broken heart, I do not know.
If he were to die protecting his ex-girlfriend from something, yes, that would be really admirable, in fact I would applaud him for his brave sacrifice. But he did not, he chose to end his own life, for whatever reasons clearly unknown and instead of people benefiting from the situation, it made things worse. Like, 12984798179789758917592858 times worse, for his family, friends, and not to mention, the person who will be feeling the guilt the most - his ex-girlfriend.
What was he trying to do really?
Life is cheap like this
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| It's okay, I'm free anyway |
That was the message he gave (not the sole message however), that life is so cheap, that when a person feels like he don't want to live anymore, he or she can just end his or her life, without really considering the consequences.
And to die for a petty reason such as a failed relationship, it further amplifies the message.
Many kids in the poorer areas of the world - Africa, Latin America, South Asia, they were born into families that cannot support them in terms of the most basic needs. Everyday life is a struggle for them, and having just clean water and food, to them, is the equivalent of us staying in a luxury 5-star resort for a weekend. A lot of them do not make it to adulthood, and those who do face constant threat of epidemic diseases, with not chance of getting medical treatment. They really want to live, but alas, the world is unfair sometimes, they were just unfortunate to be born in the situation they are in, and dying early is a fated affair, them having almost no control over it.
But this person, born in a beautiful country of Malaysia, with no immediate natural or economical crisis, into a decent family, having more than human basic needs, took everything for granted and chose, I repeat, consciously chose to end his own life, when at the same time the unfortunates all around the world are trying to live, choosing to live, despite facing the prospect of dying in a near future.
Do you not see the problem with his thinking?
And if you ask me, this is the reason I will not give him the respect due, because he does not value his own life, which could not had happened had the paths of his parents did not entwine and they did not get married, or had they decided to have sex copulate on another day instead of the day where the embryo destined to mature into him were formed.
Instant celebrity status
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| It's like Hollywood, except that I'm in heaven |
I doubt if this is what he had in mind when he committed suicide (who can be sure, though?), but take a search in facebook, type in his name and see what comes out.
Yes, you are right, fan pages. No, not singular, but the plural "fan page
s". And if that does not disturb you, take a look at the number of subscribers of the pages, it goes well over 40 thousand for the more popular ones. But even the lesser ones had amounted thousands of not tens of thousands of facebook "likers".
What is wrong with these people really? What are they trying to do, making a fan page?
Are they trying to glorify this death? Worshiping him as a celebrity? Sorry if this sounds wrong, but I can't think of any other reason a sane person would create or like these pages. You can argue that the pages are used for commemoration purposes, but doesn't that mean that his death has more value, and therefore, deserves to be noticed by more people?
If anything at all, these pages are telling people that posting suicide notes on facebook and committing suicide is "cool", and can have bad influences on people, especially the younger people (and by young I mean those teenagers less than 18 years of age) who can sometimes be immature enough to follow bad trends.
And as for the people who subscribed to these pages, what are you doing? Are you promoting the same values that these pages are trying to instill? Stop liking the pages. Stop posting R.I.P. notes there. It's none of your fucking business he died. If you are just doing that with good intentions, try justifying why didn't you do the same for the gazillions of people who died for a better reason or a better cause.
There are people who deserve those wishes more than this lad here, many more who were forgotten but contributed to the society more. These are the ones that you should be wishing, not him, not when all he cares about is himself. Of selflessness and selfishness, are we really trying to tell people that the latter deserves more recognition?
p.s. If there's a fan page related to this incident that you should like at all, it is
this.
Sigh, I think I should stop here. There are much more things I wanted to say about this incident, but I think I should just keep it to myself. But really, people, be more mature okay? It's okay to be kids sometimes, but not when it shows your infinite stupidity.
That is all for today. For my next post, I think I shall write about something in response to my friend's facebook posts about some conspiracies and new world order. Hopefully I can prepare my materials in time, and have it posted up in a couple of days.
Till next time, cheers.